“People are happiest at the beginnings and the ends of their lives…”

Ashton Applewhite says,

“People are happiest at the beginnings and the ends of their lives. The vast majority of Americans over 65 live independently. The older people get, the less afraid they are of dying. Aging is a natural, lifelong, powerful process. So how come so many of us unthinkingly assume that depression, diapers, and dementia lie ahead?  That the 20th century’s astonishing leap in life expectancy is a disaster-in-the making? Underlying all the hand-wringing is ageism: discrimination that sidelines and silences older people.”

 

Ms. Applewhite has written a book and blogs about ageism, and also authors a Q & A blog called “Yo, Is This Ageist?”  These, and tools such as a consciousness-raising booklet and a vigorous speaking schedule, all “help catalyze a movement to make discrimination on the basis of age as unacceptable as any other kind.”

 

 

We hope you’ll join Care Partner Connection and The Ithaca College Gerontology Institute

for an online community book study and conversation about Aging and Ageism

in advance of Ms. Applewhite’s appearance

as Distinguished Speaker at Ithaca College

on October 23, 2017

visit HERE for more information and to register – enrollment is open now

The Study Begins on August 14, 2017!

Ashton Applewhite                                                               photo credit: Adrian Buckmaster

 

Lisa Kendall is a social work psychotherapist and clinical gerontologist committed to providing and promoting person-directed and trauma-informed care that supports growth and well-being for every member of the Elder care team.

In addition to her private practice, Lisa is an Educator and Mentor for The Eden Alternative(TM), teaches the Fieldwork course for the Ithaca College Gerontology Institute, and operates Care Partner Connection to offer online and in-person education, training, and retreats.

“Smart, Sassy, and Oh, So Wise…”

That’s what AARP says about Ashton Applewhite and her book, “This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism.”

As Ms. Applewhite is appearing as Ithaca College Gerontology Institute’s Distinguished Speaker this fall, we thought it would be AMAZING to read and talk about her book together!

You are invited to join us for a 10 week online community book read, culminating in Ms. Applewhite’s appearance at Ithaca College on Monday, October 23, 2017.

The Ithaca College Gerontology Institute is partnering with Lisa Kendall, Clinical Gerontologist and pro-aging advocate, to offer this informative, thought-provoking, and paradigm-busting conversation about age and aging in America.

About the Book   

From childhood on, we’re barraged by messages that it’s sad to be old. That wrinkles are embarrassing, and old people useless.

Author and activist Ashton Applewhite believed them too—until she realized where this prejudice comes from and the damage it does.

Lively, funny, and deeply researched, This Chair Rocks traces Applewhite’s journey from apprehensive boomer to pro-aging radical, and in the process debunks myth after myth about late life.

The book explains the roots of ageism—in history and in our own age denial—and how it divides and debases, examines how ageist myths and stereotypes cripple the way our brains and bodies function, looks at ageism in the workplace and the bedroom, exposes the cost of the all-American myth of independence, critiques the portrayal of olders as burdens to society, describes what an all-age-friendly world would look like, and concludes with a rousing call to action.

Whether you’re older or hoping to get there, this book will shake you by the shoulders, cheer you up, make you mad, and change the way you see the rest of your life.

Age pride!

Buy the book here.   Click HERE to register for the online study

 

Chapters will be rolled out weekly starting August 14th, 2017, and include:

Week #1 – Introduction: Welcome! Get your bearings and become familiar with the community conversation board, links, etc.

Week #2 – Chapter 1: The Problem with Ageism

Week #3 – Chapter 2: Our Ages, Ourselves – Identity

Week #4 – Chapter 3: Forget Memory – the Older Brain

Week #5 – Chapter 4: Health, Not Youth – the Older Body

Week #6 – Chapter 5: No Expiration Date – Sex and Intimacy

Week #7 – Chapter 6: Not Done Yet – the Workplace

Week #8 – Chapter 7: Long Life is a Team Sport – the Independence Trap

Week#9 – Chapter 8: The Bull Looks Different – the End of Life

Week#10 – Chapter 9: Occupy Age! Beyond Ageism

Click HERE to register for the online study WHAT THEY ARE SAYING…

“Wow. This book totally rocks. It arrived on a day when I was in deep confusion and sadness about my age—62. Everything about it, from my invisibility to my neck. Within four or five wise, passionate pages, I had found insight, illumination and inspiration. I never use the word empower, but this book has empowered me.”               ANNE LAMOTT, New York Times best-selling author

 

“Along comes Ashton Applewhite with a book we have been waiting for.  Anti-ageism now boasts a popular champion, activist, and epigrammatist in the lineage of Martial and Dorothy Parker. Until This Chair Rocks we haven’t had a single compact book that blows up myths seven to a page like fireworks.”   LOS ANGELES REVIEW OF BOOKS

 

“Vibrant, energetic, fact-filled and funny, This Chair Rocks is a call to arms not just for older people but for our whole society.”                               KATHA POLLITT, poet, essayist, and Nation columnist

 

“Sometimes a writer does us all a great favor and switches on a light.  Snap! The darkness vanishes and, in its place we find an electric vision of new ways of living. I want to live in a world where ageism is just a memory, and This Chair Rocks illuminates the path.”    DR. BILL THOMAS, founder of Changing Aging

 

“This Chair Rocks is radical, exuberant, and full of all sorts of facts that erase many of the myths and beliefs about late life.  As Applewhite defines and describes ageism, new ways of seeing and being in the world emerge, empowering everyone to see things as they  really are.”     LAURIE ANDERSON, artist

 

“A knowledgeable, straight-talking, and witty book that briskly explains to anyone how-wrong-we-are-about-aging. There’s radical news here to enlighten the most ‘done’ starlet, and
tart turns of phrase to captivate the most expert age critic: ‘All aging is “successful”—not  just the sporty version—otherwise you’re dead.’ This pithy primer ought  ideally to be given to every American adolescent—to inoculate them  against the lies and stereotypes that can spoil the long life course  they will all want.” Margaret Morganroth Gullette, author of Aged by Culture and the prize-winning Agewise and Declining to Decline

 

“A smart and stirring call to add ageism to the list of ‘isms’ that divide us, and to mobilize against it. Applewhite shows how ageism distorts our view of old age, and urges us to challenge age- based prejudices in ourselves and in society. An important wake-up call for  any baby boomer who’s apprehensive about growing old.”   Pepper Schwartz, Professor of Sociology, University of Washington and AARP’s Official Love & Relationship Ambassador

 

“Finally, a take-down of the last acceptable prejudice. Applewhite  eloquently and expertly exposes the structural discrimination that makes  growing older so much harder than it should be—not just for the white,  affluent, healthy, and able-bodied, but for women, people of color,  people with disabilities, and poor people. Full of treasures, This Chair Rocks should be required reading for everyone in aging services, to help us confront ageism in our personal and professional lives and join forces against it. As Applewhite writes, ‘It’s time for Age Pride.’”    Donna Corrado, Commissioner, NYC Department for the Aging

 

“An eloquent and well-researched exposé of the prejudice that feeds age bias, and a passionate argument to mobilize against it. This must-read book is also a fun-read for every age.”   Stephanie Coontz, author, The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap

 

“To live agefully – what a wonderful word! With warmth, wit and  clarity, Ashton Applewhite explains what it means, while never falling  into age-denial or age-shame. This is a book packed with provocative and  liberating ideas, to make you leap into the air with pleasure – even if  your knees, like mine, are a little dodgy.”       Anne Karpf, author of How to Age

Click HERE to register for the online study About Ashton Applewhite

“Smart, sassy and oh so wise.”   AARP

 

“Ashton Applewhite is a visionary whose time has come, tackling one of the most persistent biases of our day with originality, verve, and   humor. Her magic formula of naming and shaming may just shake all of us   out of complacency and it into action. Whether you relate through being older now or recognize that aging is in your future, this is one of the most important books you’ll ever read.”   Marc Freedman, CEO of Encore.org and author of The Big Shift: Navigating the New Life Stage Before Midlife

Click HERE to register for the online study

 

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*Materials and reviews adapted from www.thischairrocks.com

The Ithaca College Gerontology Institute Page on this event can be found at: https://www.ithaca.edu/gerontology/speakerseries/applewhite/this_chair_rocks/

The ABC’s of Well-Being

Seven Fast and Simple Strategies for

Finding Your Calm Center and Recovering Your Balance

 

We’ve known for a long time that caring for an ill family member can create prolonged or high levels of stress, creating greater risk for developing chronic illness. In this busy world, it’s important to notice when we feel stressed, and to quickly shift our minds and bodies to a calmer state, minimizing the impact of work and family stressors and reducing our vulnerability to illness.

Photo by W. J. Rusen

 

Join me at the Tompkins County Office for Aging in Ithaca, NY on Thursday, April 7th for a mini-workshop where we will explore seven super-quick and fun ways to tap into your internal calming system, enjoy greater peace of mind, and learn about free resources to support your well-being.

 

The workshop is free, but…     Please register to attend by calling the Office for the Aging: (607) 274-5492 or email dstoyell@tompkins-co.org

 

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Lisa Kendall is a social worker and clinical gerontologist who specializes in aging and Elder care, living with chronic illness, and trauma recovery. Formerly Senior Consultant for Work and Family Services at Cornell University and now serving on the President’s Advisory Council for Work and Family Affairs, Lisa maintains a private counseling and consulting practice in Ithaca. She is an Educator and Mentor for The Eden Alternative™ and teaches the Fieldwork class for the Ithaca College Gerontology Institute. Lisa is a popular speaker at the local, state, and national level, and writes a blog on self-care for every member of the care partner team at www.lisakendallcounseling.com/blog

 

Making Peace with the Past

Please join me for this workshop!!

Making Peace with the Past:

The Impact of Emotional Trauma on Elder Well-Being

(and the Importance of Trauma-Informed Care!)

Wednesday, March 9

2:00-4:30 p.m.

The Ithaca College Gerontology Institute

at the Country Inn & Suites

1100 Danby Road (Route 96B), Ithaca, NY.

 

 

Early trauma is associated with increased incidence of chronic illness and depression in Elderhood, a time when Elders seek meaning in their lives and to resolve long-standing issues.

 

This session explores how person-directed, trauma-informed treatments can be used with Elders and care partners to integrate mind, body, and spirit, easing anxiety and depression and supporting The Eden Alternative Domains of Well-Being™.  Case studies will emphasize efficacy as well as explore mental health issues as they present in different care settings, and how to harness the unique gifts of this developmental stage.

 

Please Register here:

https://www.ithaca.edu/eventservices/eventservices/programpayments/gw/

and let your friends and colleagues know, too!!

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Lisa Kendall is a social work psychotherapist and clinical gerontologist who has worked with Elders and care partners for over thirty years in home health care, adult day program, hospital, and nursing home settings. In her private therapy practice, she works with Elders, care partners, and others who live with chronic health and cognitive issues, and supports healing for survivors of trauma and loss.

Lisa is committed to using person-directed, trauma-informed therapies, including EMDR, and strength-based, person-directed approaches to maximize well-being for clients and their families. She also teaches the Fieldwork class for the Ithaca College Gerontology Institute, and serves on the Cornell University President’s Advisory Council on Work and Family Affairs.  

As an Educator and Mentor for The Eden Alternative, Lisa has a special interest in care of people living with dementia and in supporting well-being for the entire care partner team.

Do You Work with Elders? Early Registration Closes Soon!

The 8th Eden Alternative™ International Conference: “It’s About Time!”

May 3-4-5, 2016

Little Rock, Arkansas

EARLY REGISTRATION ENDS January 12!

This dynamic bi-annual event strives to inspire and renew the passion of those dedicated to changing the culture of care across all living environments. Through a unique learning framework, participants have the opportunity to deepen both perspective and skill base by exploring innovative approaches to person-directed care.

Learning and networking opportunities promote new ideas and standards of practice participants can apply to enhancing quality of life for Elders and their care partners, wherever they live and work.  A vital part of the conference experience is creating an opportunity to build a sense of community and shared learning among all participants. We are proud to be one of two major conferences that focus specifically on culture change. Come learn and grow with us!  It can be different…

Who should attend?

Previous Eden Alternative International Conferences have drawn attendees from all over the world. We welcome those new to culture change and those on the journey with extensive experience and expertise. We  emphasize the value of every voice in this important work.

Individuals from across the full continuum of care join us in the spirit of shared learning and discovery, including certified nursing assistants, administrators, licensed nurses, corporate leadership, therapists, activity professionals, social workers, physicians, dietary professionals, home care/home health professionals and other direct care providers, care managers, Elders and others accepting support, family members and advocates, youth, ombudsmen, policymakers, regulators, consultants, clergy, educators, researchers, and designers.

I hope to see you there!

www.edenalt.org

 

Complete information is available at: http://www.edenalt.org/events-and-offerings/the-eden-alternative-international-conference/

Many thanks and take care, Lisa K.

P.S. I will be joining with some amazing colleagues to facilitate a Leadership Intensive on “Navigating the Hero’s Journey: A Map for Wise Leadership in Culture Change”

Steve LeMoine, NHA, MBA; Mel Coppola, Lisa Kendall, LCSW-R, CSW-G; Mary Kim Smith, NHA, RN; Carole Ware-McKenzie, BS; Kim McRae, FCTA

What does it mean to be a leader in the culture change movement?  How can we continue to grow personally, facilitate transformation in our workplace and community, and ultimately change the world?  Join us as we use the tools and apply the lessons of “The Hero’s Journey,” (based on the work of Joseph Campbell), to navigate our unique path and facilitate growth in our organizations.

Participants will be able to:

  • Identify 2 approaches for defining one’s a  personal leadership style;
  • Define two situations where more than one leadership style might be employed to effect change and growth; and
  • Name 2 techniques for recognizing leadership potential in others.

AND a break-out session on “Making Peace with the Past: The Impact of Emotional Trauma on Elder Well-Being and the Importance of Trauma-Informed Care”

Early trauma is associated with increased incidence of chronic illness and depression in Elderhood, a time when Elders seek meaning in their lives and to resolve long-standing issues.  This session explores how person-directed, trauma-informed treatments can be used with Elders and their care partners to integrate mind, body, and spirit, easing anxiety and depression and supporting the Eden Alternative Domains of Well-Being™.  Case studies will emphasize efficacy as well as explore mental health issues as they present in different care settings, and how to harness the unique gifts of this developmental stage.

Participants will be able to:

  • List three benefits of resolving painful memories during Elderhood;
  • Detail 5 treatment strategies that support person-directed care; and
  • Utilize “The Eden Alternative Domains of Well-Being™” to understand and assess the impact of unresolved trauma.

(Now you REALLY want to come!!!!)

 

P.P.S. I grabbed the conference description from The Eden Alternative homepage.  Be as BOLD as I and check it out HERE!

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